Lol! No doubt, some years are harder than others. The best advice I can give anyone is soil. Get as much composted manure, mulch, and any organic matter you can mixed into the soil. The richer the soil is the easier it is to get plants to produce. I also think it’s wise to start small. Only having three tomato plants that you can take care of is better than thirty that go neglected. Then there are still going to be years that some plants just don’t do well. Overall though, the effort is more than rewarded. Eating fresh produce that you grew from start to finish is just satisfying to the soul!