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So when we had the talk with granny, my brother in law was present but his wife was not. Learned the next day that he is in the dog house because he did not call her and put her on speaker so that she could be in on that conversation. . . The way I feel is that was a conversation for us only to have with granny. I keep getting told how involved BILs wife is with granny. She has only been to her house once to take her lunch in over 10 years. I can't say that is really involvement. I don't count being out on speaker phone during a meeting with care givers as involvement. Doesn't involvement actually require you to do something? When talking, once again over the phone, she asked since we are bringing Granny to live with us, what could (brother) do to help. My suggestion was maybe every 6 months or so, you could take her for a weekend. They already have a walk in shower with bars so everything is already set up there. They would just need to get a raiser for the toilet. That doesn't cost much at all. In fact we are having to get two for our house. There was dead silence on her end. . . A few days later BIL stops by and said if we ever needed a break there is an assisted living type hotel that would cost $125 a night. . . Really, that is their solution if we would like a break. I can guaranty I will not be asking them for anything. They could not even take her dog. . . She is going to my neighbor/renter/friend.

Sounds like Granny is ready though. . . Already asking if she was going to get moved in today. . . :) Our part of the wall in shower is almost done. We had some hiccups with the electrical, but it is figured out now. All that is left is the threshold. Install of cultured marble is the 2nd week of July.



Next will be expanding the closet and ripping out old shower.

You need to keep a calender of every thing you do and everythibg they do. Doctors appointments, household amendments, food etc. It may come in handy later. It's horrible to say, but nothing brings out the worst in people that the death of a loved one.
 
Yesterday mom was dizzy. I looked at her keg and asked how many of those pain patches (aspirin) she had on. She said "5"

I told her she had turned her bloid as thin a water and that why she is dizzy.

Some people dont think of topical meds as medicine. I keep telling her that the skin is the largest organ.
 
Yesterday mom was dizzy. I looked at her keg and asked how many of those pain patches (aspirin) she had on. She said "5"

I told her she had turned her bloid as thin a water and that why she is dizzy.

Some people dont think of topical meds as medicine. I keep telling her that the skin is the largest organ.
Granny normally has two patches, one on each knee to help with pain. Other than that we use the rice bag warmed up.
I guess there is benefits on having us manage her pain. . . Yes, I am shacking my head at your moms decisions. I feel for you right now.
 
Granny was all worried tonight about moving since it will be in a couple weeks mow. She told me that if I wanted any of her Hummels I am welcome to them. I reminded her that she had already put tape with names on all of them so they are taken care of and will go to the family member she wanted them to. She says but your name isnt on any of them. I told her that my sweet hunnys name is on some of them and what is his, is mine too. :) I plan in honoring what she was wanting to do and plan on packing each box with names on them for her kids and grand kids to pick up. I am not sure when she did that but know it was years ago. . . some of the names have faded on the tape. The caregiver that is staying overnight with her said that Granny loves me a lot and is always talking about me. That means a lot to me since I have only been in the family 20 years. I am closer to her than I am with my own mother and she means the world to me. Since my BIL came in to stay on Mon leaving today, I told her I missed her. . . She said she missed me so much she cried. . yep, that broke my heart. Told her she should have called me and I would have come over. I did talk to her everyday, but I guess seeing in person everyday is what she needed.
 
Yesterday at lunch granny asked her sitter ' have you seen my new kitchen? It's groovy. I had to laugh since I have never heard her use that expression before but had to ask her what new kitchen because she does tend to say some off wall things. She said yours. . . 'It's cute, is that better?' I am glad she is impressed because I would love some updates/changes?'

When we were out picking up feed yesterday we got a surprise call from the shower installation guys. They wanted to come by and install the floor of the shower. So after that got done I put the accent file down on it, along with a plank of floor to take a picture to send grannys 's sitter to show her. I called Last night after sending hunny with dinner. I needed to get to bed early for work today. While talking to her she she said ' I am ready to come'. . . In fact tonight for dinner she asked if she could be coming home with us. I am thinking another week and a half but also know she will be asking g every time she sees me. Tonight I was able to get out of her some of her knick knacks that she would like to bring. Baby steps.
 
I'm so happy she is pleased with the upcoming change.

People can be stuck in their ways.

My mom is back to swimming now, so she must be feeling better. My husband is planning to take my son to the new Toy Story this week so that will be the true test. Mom loves to go to the movies.
 
I had a Jacuzzi at my other house and hated it. It was loud and the jets were hard to clean. When we built here, I said nope. I want a garden tun with no jets.
That's why we went with the air jets in our new house; nothing to clean. We had the air jets in our last house too and the wife used it a lot. Our Alaska house had the jacuzzi tub and she used it once. It was too hard to clean.
 
Mom is fully recovered. She been swimming daily and is going to movie tomorrow. I guarantee she will have at least 2 extra stops to make too.

Good for her. I hope I'm in as good health as she is at 86. I hope if I live that long , I appreciate my blessings. Most that age aren't mobile or capable of everything she does.
 
Mom is fully recovered. She been swimming daily and is going to movie tomorrow. I guarantee she will have at least 2 extra stops to make too.

Good for her. I hope I'm in as good health as she is at 86. I hope if I live that long , I appreciate my blessings. Most that age aren't mobile or capable of everything she does.
That is so wonderful! I counted blessing for many years and can fully understand and appreciate. Let her keep going as much as she can and would like. I am a firm believer that it you do not use it, you will lose it. Motion is your mom's best friend right now.

Even though granny is not able to walk, she still does her exercises to swinging her legs and bringing her knees up and back down. Periodically she can stand and walk around in a circle. Twice in the last month.
 
It is crunch time now. . . . by this weekend the plan is to have Granny fully moved in. Yesterday was her china hutch and curio cabinet. Along with finishing up our closet. Today was cleaning her room washing walls and baseboards, then bringing her desk that her dad had built her I was a little worried about her hutch and curio because I did a little different on her placements. I took what she had done and just built on it adding in different things that she has stashed in her lower cabinet area. I had made my BIL take a pic of it to show her yesterday, but she told me no when I asjed today. . . her short term memory is just not good but yet she can tell me practically everything that happened when she was younger. .
 
So Granny has been moved in since Sat. First day I was able to get her bedroom furniture set along with a few knick knacks. She thought it was beautiful. . . I did get her a new comforter because for one, i didn't like hers, but mainly because I did want her to have something new for her room. The second day I hung pictures of her, both her husbands and some other family photos along with her grandmother's diploma made out of sheep skin. That night I thought she was going to cry. I know she teared up.

Today was her first visit living here with her home care nurse. She told him that she loved it here with us. She went outside and spent time out in the front yard with the goats and then a ride around the farm and neighborhood on the golf cart. The last few days when sitting in the livingroom, she watches out the Windows for the cows and goats both. Her nurse said that everything was good and he could tell she even looked better.

She hasn't needed any of the pain patches and has been strong enough to feed herself everyday so far. I know that can change but we are all counting out blessings. If this keeps up I don't see why my life can not go back to almost a full normal.
 
Husband's mom lives with his sister. His mom has had signs of dementia for a few years. This week she was in the front seat with her son in law and thanked him for taken her home, but didn't even know his name or who he is.

Then she didn't recognize her granddaughter that she raised. These thing happen more when she gets away from her home. They have decided not to stress her by taking her to strange places.

It's very sad. It runs in her family and my husband has been having some memory problems, but I think its just because of his drinking.
 
Husband's mom lives with his sister. His mom has had signs of dementia for a few years. This week she was in the front seat with her son in law and thanked him for taken her home, but didn't even know his name or who he is.

Then she didn't recognize her granddaughter that she raised. These thing happen more when she gets away from her home. They have decided not to stress her by taking her to strange places.

It's very sad. It runs in her family and my husband has been having some memory problems, but I think its just because of his drinking.
Could be a little of both unfortunately. My time is spent mainly with Granny, cooking and cleaning these days then a little time out with my goats and still a few days of my outside job. I may need to go in tomorrow. I will find out in the morning if the people sch can get a big order done for a wedding. Since the boss started vacation today, I offered to come help if need be. I got my review this last Mon, which was good and got the highest raise possible. It's little things like this that helps keep me on the "above and beyond" list. I need to go out tonight to do some deworming, just waiting for them to barn up for the night.
 
Speaking of animals, my momma hen moved herself and babies out of the apartment into the main coop tonight. I was looking everywhere outside then looked in a nest and there they were.

They grow up so fast.
 
Mom and dad decided that they're only going to take a small load of personal things with them when they move to my sister's. They asked the wife and I to dispose of all of their asset's and real estate. They've got an 80+ years accumulation of hand tools, power tools, antiques, furniture, household stuff, hardware, reloading equipment, ammo, guns, etc, etc. The kids are coming down to see what they want and then we'll start selling off everything that's left. We probably won't be ready to sell the house until next spring.
 
Mom and dad decided that they're only going to take a small load of personal things with them when they move to my sister's. They asked the wife and I to dispose of all of their asset's and real estate. They've got an 80+ years accumulation of hand tools, power tools, antiques, furniture, household stuff, hardware, reloading equipment, ammo, guns, etc, etc. The kids are coming down to see what they want and then we'll start selling off everything that's left. We probably won't be ready to sell the house until next spring.
Sounds like y'all have got quite the job ahead of y'all. I have been helping my mom sort through and dispose of/sell my grandmother's stuff since she passed in December. She was a genuine hoarder but she also had some nice things so it has not been easy.
 
Since my husband is 61, he is on the elderly page.

Just got back from taking him to get an upper and lower GI and biopsy. He is very anemic and they don't know why.

They are also doing the biopsy to check for celiac since our daughter has it.

The initial results didn't show ulcers or cancers which is good. The celiac biopsy takes about 2 weeks.

I told the doctor of his excessive drinking, but didn't really find any damage caused by it. I was hoping for just enough to scare him into quitting.
 
I'm 60 so here I am with my ailments . My nasal have been so swollen I have been completely clogged for a couple of weeks. Went to doctor today and he said that if I didn't get them under control, I would have to have a 3rd surgery.

Nooooooo. He gave me a steroid/benadryl shot and double dose steroids, spray and an asthma allergy med that makes them shrink. I slept for 2.5 hours today because of the benadryl.

Steroids usually don't make me hyper, but we shall see with these double strength. Maybe I'll get some work done outside tomorrow. Super Woman.
 

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